A quarter-life crisis – How I deal with my quarter-life crisis

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What is a quarter-life crisis?

Psychologists define it as a period of intense soul searching and stress in your early twenties to thirties and often revolves around career, financial situation, relationships, and life purpose.

You might be wondering what is my quarter-life crisis?

I am currently going through a quarter-life crisis. I have been feeling the pressure of being an adult where people my age all seem to know exactly what they want out of life. They are starting to build their careers, future, and family, and here I am still stuck doing nothing and wasting away. I don't even know what to do with my life. I am just feeling extremely lost.

I know it's very normal to experience that kind of thing. Realizing that I am not the only one who is going through it. But, the feeling of not having it all together in my twenties is something that stresses me out. I feel like how do I become this failure? Even though I have a lot of passion and hobbies like reading, writing, learning a new language, and drawing, but I just don’t know how to use them in a productive way. 

But I realize, I can’t keep being this way and not making a change. I have to do something to help myself out of this quarter-life crisis. 

How I deal with my quarter-life crisis

 Reflect on my life 

So, after several months of wrestling with the quarter-life crisis, I tried to get myself out of this feeling by really reflecting on my life, figuring out who I am, what I want to do, what I am good at, and just giving myself space and time to get to know myself better.

Search for my passion

I've been trying to figure out what my passion is, who I want to be, and really ask myself what is it exactly that I want to do with my life. Something that aligned with who I am. 

As I was figuring things out, I realized that I have always loved reading, writing, and learning a new language. I've also wanted to share my personal life experience, thoughts, and anything that can bring encouragement to others. But I still don’t know where to start.

Pursue my passion

I decided to start blogging and sure enough, in the beginning, I had no idea what am I going to write, how to write a great topic, because when it comes to writing an article it's not the same as I write in my book. I was also scared of what my friends would think of me if they found my blog. But, as soon as I wrote my first post and shared the link to all my social media. Guess what? They didn’t even care at all.

So, I continue posting random stuff on my blog once or twice a week, depending on my mood and what came first into my mind, because it's kind of hard to always come up with ideas to write about. I realized that blogging has helped me to be more organized and productive. 

Exercise

I decided to get back into working out. I want to be healthier, fit, and stronger both physically and mentally, as having quarter crisis has affected both my mental and physical health plus 2021 has been the insane year I have ever had despite the pandemic. My mental health got affected so badly to a point that sometimes I feel like I can’t take it anymore. However, I am still here, surviving and doing the best I can even when time gets tough.

Stop comparing myself to other people

I noticed that I used to compare myself a lot to other people. I often ask myself why is it so easy for other people to just get a job, have stable careers, and get into a serious relationship. It seems they have it all figured out in their twenties. But I realized that comparing myself to others only makes me more confused about what is it I really want for myself. After all, This is about me.

My family and friends

The last thing that helped to deal with my quarter-life crisis is the people around me.

I am so grateful to be surrounded by my family and friends who have always been supportive, even though they don't completely understand, at least I don't feel alone in this journey of finding my Identity during a quarter-life crisis. 

These are a few things that have helped me deal with my quarter-life crisis. I haven't finished with it yet but I am starting to feel better.  I have learned so much from it. It has helped me to figure out who I am and what I want to do with my life. 

I don't know where this journey will take me because I am still very much in the process of figuring things out for myself. So far, I enjoy blogging as it's kind of aligned with what I want. 

What about you? How do you deal with a quarter-life crisis?

Feel free to share your experience in the comment below